I had a similar issue before but solved it by running a different PHP file to update the sitemap with a CRON job.
<?php
$xmlString = '<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?>';
$xmlString .= '<urlset xmlns="http://www.sitemaps.org/schemas/sitemap/0.9" xmlns:xsi="http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema-instance" xsi:schemaLocation="http://www.sitemaps.org/schemas/sitemap/0.9 http://www.sitemaps.org/schemas/sitemap/0.9/sitemap.xsd">';
$xmlString .= '<url>';
$xmlString .= '<loc>http://example.com/</loc>';
$xmlString .= '<lastmod>'.date(DATE_ATOM,time()).'</lastmod>';
$xmlString .= '<changefreq>daily</changefreq>';
$xmlString .= '<priority>1.0</priority>';
$xmlString .= '</url>';
$xmlString .= '<url>';
$xmlString .= '<loc>http://example.com/videos/</loc>';
$xmlString .= '<lastmod>'.date(DATE_ATOM,time()).'</lastmod>';
$xmlString .= '<changefreq>daily</changefreq>';
$xmlString .= '<priority>1.0</priority>';
$xmlString .= '</url>';
$xmlString .= '<url>';
$xmlString .= '<loc>http://example.com/contact/</loc>';
$xmlString .= '<lastmod>'.date(DATE_ATOM,time()).'</lastmod>';
$xmlString .= '<changefreq>daily</changefreq>';
$xmlString .= '<priority>1.0</priority>';
$xmlString .= '</url>';
$xmlString .= '<url>';
$xmlString .= '<loc>http://example.com/blog/</loc>';
$xmlString .= '<lastmod>'.date(DATE_ATOM,time()).'</lastmod>';
$xmlString .= '<changefreq>daily</changefreq>';
$xmlString .= '<priority>1.0</priority>';
$xmlString .= '</url>';
$sql = "SELECT * FROM categories";
$stmt = DB::run($sql);
while ($row = $stmt->fetch(PDO::FETCH_ASSOC)){
$url = $row["url"];
$xmlString .= '<url>';
$xmlString .= '<loc>http://example.com/category/'.htmlentities($url).'/</loc>';
$xmlString .= '<lastmod>'.date(DATE_ATOM,time()).'</lastmod>';
$xmlString .= '<changefreq>daily</changefreq>';
$xmlString .= '<priority>1.0</priority>';
$xmlString .= '</url>';
}
$xmlString .= '</urlset>';
$dom = new DOMDocument;
$dom->preserveWhiteSpace = FALSE;
$dom->loadXML($xmlString);
$dom->save('../sitemap.xml');
?>
Edit
<?php
$host = 'http://www.google.com/ping?sitemap=https://www.example.com/sitemap.xml';
$ch = curl_init($host);
curl_setopt($ch, CURLOPT_TIMEOUT, 5);
curl_setopt($ch, CURLOPT_CONNECTTIMEOUT, 5);
curl_setopt($ch, CURLOPT_RETURNTRANSFER, true);
$data = curl_exec($ch);
$httpcode = curl_getinfo($ch, CURLINFO_HTTP_CODE);
curl_close($ch);
if($httpcode>=200 && $httpcode<300){
echo 'success';
} else {
echo 'try again';
}
?>